Tuesday, March 13, 2007

To dog or not to dog?

I'm thinking about adopting a dog (hence the title of the post). Actually, this dog here, Precious. Isn't she, though? She's a Corgi/Chihuahua mix, 6 years old. Not sure why she's up for adoption. The shelter says she's good with cats. Not sure, though, if my delicate flowers will be good with her. Rachel seems to find dogs curious, but they seem to freak Paul out (what doesn't, though?). J says he is lukewarm to the idea of getting a dog, but that the decision is up to me. And what a tough decision it's turning out to be. I've come to the conclusion that I can't really decide until I meet her, and I don't know yet when that will be.

I'm torn, though -- is it right to bring another member to our family who won't necessarily be welcomed by two members and only kind of welcomed by the third? Not to say that J won't be kind and loving to her, but he did explicitly say that the dog will be 75% my responsibility. I have a lot of what ifs running through my head, all fears that bringing her into the home will put a wedge in our family with she and I on one side and J and the cats on the other. I'm being overly dramatic, I'm sure (as I am known to be), but what if I'm not? Too many what ifs.

I want a dog for many reasons, and I've wanted one for quite a while. I like the idea of playing with her, taking her for walks, snuggling with her, taking her on care rides (she supposedly likes these). I know I will also need to take her out when it's pouring down rain or 20 degrees or I'm sick. And, yeah, that kinda sucks, but I think the bonding between her and I would more than make up for that. It does with the cats. But what if Precious and I don't bond? What if she never really comes around or, instead, bonds with J? Or, what if it's just like I imagine it and we're the best of friends?

What all this talk about adopting a dog has made me realize is that I'm not yet ready for a baby. I'm just getting into my new job and new town, and I'm just not ready for that kind of responsibility yet. I kinda see the dog as a step up in responsibility. And as a being to care for, who needs my care, but isn't so dependant on my care, if you know what I mean.

For the moment, I guess I just wait until I can meet her and get to know her a little. If you have any advice or words of wisdom, please share.


liv said...

i can't imagine life without marty dog. i think having a dog is in someways what my friends report having a kiddo is like in that you are never completely perpared. you just jump in with both feet and love the hell out of 'em.

routine routine routine. that is the best thing you can do for both you and the pup. that and lots of snuggles... :)

amandanator said...

I don't know much about dogs, I've never really had one. However, from what I've observed, especially from you, is that you can handle anything that comes your way.
You just adapt. People deal with things all the time that they never thought they could. If you never tried anything because you weren't "prepared" think of the things you would miss. I wasn't prepared for H. Don't think so much.

And because I'm married to J Part II, you and I both know they never say it's a good idea unless they thought of it first!!!! Love ya

stucky said...

I loved my dogs and thought the world of them. Personally, I'm a big fan of puppies.

culotte said...

My personal feeling is that everyone in the house needs to be 100% on board with the idea, and that the responsibilities should be split evenly.

It's a lot of work!