Tuesday, September 27, 2011

Desperately Seeking a Friend

I've been in Walla2 for four years now and I've yet to make a friend, a real friend. I have met many fabulous people and enjoyed their company. But I haven't met anyone I can just call up and invite somewhere on a moments notice or ask for favors and vice versa. I've gotten close a couple times but nothing's stuck. And I'm sad and lonely.  Jason's in the same boat.  Though someone I know moved here 6 mos ago and has friends galore. I just don't get it. I've invited, accepted invites, done the networking thing...nada. Is it me?  I've made friends in the last 4 years, just not locally. What gives?

Frustrated and sad, but not ready to give up hope. A chum has to be out there, right?


heathre said...

those wa-wa's are missing out on an awesome friend. sending my chum-finder good thoughts your way. (but i really just want a teleporter so i can be there at a moment's notice). xoxo

Anonymous said...

I would be in the same boat as you Cora if Sam and lived in a new place. It has been a longtime since I have met a new friend. I am trying to muster up the courage to make friends with other parents at Ailie's daycare. I have lots of friends/family with kids but they all live so faraway!


amandaw said...

I was just depressed as shit today thinking how I finally felt I had a great group of friends in Kennewick when I up and moved (note it does take awhile). I'm finding it really hard to put myself out there. What makes it even harder is everyone already here has friends, they don't need a new one. I'm getting very tired of starting over. Plus, I just compare everyone to YOU, and Jason, and Jessica, and Hilleri, and Sam, Aaron, and Mark and Rose and Jan and Matt, etc.
I think we just have to keep trying. Invite people to dinner, but it has to be the right person. So if you click with them put yourself out there. If they laugh at your jokes, are liberal, and not religious in an annoying way do it! But don't just do it once. With Jan and Matt it seriously took like 5 times to feel we were 'friends.'
Let's do it together! Go Team Friend! sorry so lame. Maybe that's why I don't have any friends:) Love ya!

carmen said...

It takes time and repeated trials as your friend Amanda said. I have moved a lot in my life and just last year and I think that in the beginning you have to be friendly and put yourself in social situations that would allow you to meet like-minded souls, like a hobby-based group, or start a play group for your daughters with like-minded mamas and invite them over. The best friend making advice I ever got was, "Be the friend you want to have." I invite people over a lot and organize or invite myself along to do things that I want to do and over time have made some good friends.

Nanimal said...

how did I miss this post? I have to say volunteering with the library recently has been amazing for friend finding (although heather has pointed out that we have a young friends group at our library which may be not normal).
I love your new challenge and really I think pals will follow. what about your love of wine - it seems like there would be opportunities there? I am sending hugs across th emiles